Being seen is the only thing that will save me

I heard this last week, and I have never felt so seen and called out at the same time.

In 2026, as per usual, I take my sweet 3 months or so to set up my yearly goals. I begin around Christmas by building a vision board, or more like adding to what I had saved over the years. If it’s something I already achieved, I take the image to the next level, delete what no longer makes sense to me, and add all the new things that I am setting myself to achieve.

Oh, and low-key plan how my January - February would look like. I don’t overwhelm myself with those months usually, because it’s the general lack of sun and energy that would make me feel good about setting up big goals and not even try to make an attempt to start on it. So light work.

Next, as we slowly approach mid-February and the Lunar New Year, I plan more strategically. This is where I set all my big goals for my year, and divide them into sub-goals, and all that. That makes sense to me. And then, late mid-March, my birthday arrives, and this is where I fully step into the theme of my year (yes, each year has a personalised theme for myself only).

One of the biggest goals I set for my 2026 is to become famous. And somehow, even admitting it and setting it as my goal just made me feel so much fucking shame. Voices started to stream into my subconsciousness.

“Who do you think you are?”

“You? Really?”

“Don’t be ridiculous, babe.”

Basically, all the bullies I’ve met early on in life have risen and started bullying me into thinking I’m not worthy.

Yet in my head, I am worthy somehow. Because if I can see it in my head, it is happening. Though the truth be told, I was raised in an environment where being creative/artistic or wanting to be famous was somewhat shameful instead of inspiring. As if those around you were projecting their fear and insecurities instead (spoiler, they were), of either encouraging or simply STFU. Like it’s not that hard.

And that’s how a lot of use grew up thinking and believing that “Being seen” is as close to sin as possible. Without even a decent explanation (spoiler: it doesn’t exist). That and “all people with money are bad people”. No wonder I hated math (still do) and was spending money based solely on vibes.

It messes with your head, especially if you, as a child, were told those things by a trusted adult. Hence, growing up, dressing up or putting on a good outfit was only reserved for special occasions. Otherwise, why are you doing too much?

Minus music festivals, we were doing the most, and that was fabulous. I really don’t agree with all the TikToks I see on my feed, how stylists scam influencers and celebs, while putting them in the weirdest outfits.

LET PEOPLE BE WEIRD!

First of all, a stylist with common sense and basic human knowledge would NEVER put their client into something they didn’t feel good in. There is no way a grown person who is doing social media for a successful living can’t say “no” to the outfit or express concerns about their own appearance.

Second, IT IS A FESTIVAL! One of the biggest music festivals in the entire world. It should look quirky. No one says Burning Man outfits are weird. Let people look odd to you. It’s fine. Maybe by wearing that so-called hideous outfit with a little too much going on, they heal their inner child. Isn’t it all we yap about for the past 7 years or so? If they feel, in any capacity, feel “seen” in that outfit, even if it’s just purely for content, let them be. You’re doing the same thing by putting your little funny videos out there mocking them.

Being seen is not usually about the clothes that you wear, but more about how you feel wearing them. This is the most important thing. Is to feel seen by yourself. By your encouraging and gentle part of being. And once you see and feel seen, your energy changes, you bloom, your aura >>>>>100000. You get me?

Dressing up should be fun, should feel at ease. And I know a lot of my babes out there struggle to put outfits together that are simple, curated, but feel like the most extraordinary thing out there, and not just for special occasions, but daily.

Exactly why I created Styling Society. To help you feel seen. Thought clothes, through style, through energy. Not just tons of content that you will save and never go back to, but actual live chat and a deep explanation behind each weekly topic. We are not rushing here, looking for a quick fix for teh weekend or that special occasion, we are here for the long run, to create meaningful living through any aspect of your life. You feel good, you look good, your energy opens up, and amazing things start flowing your way.

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Okay, that’s all.

Love you, bye xo

Your neurospicy fashion stylist,

Aya x