You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.

While working with a client yesterday and my dear-to-heart friend, we got to discussing not only the outfits that she will be packing into her 1 suitcase and moving countries, but also the importance of not only connecting with yourself on the physical level, but also spiritually.

How it is important to let go of fear and live in constantly expanding mode. And as much as those conversations on my end are built to help my clients see beyond, those pep-talks on a deeper philosophical level help me understand myself better, when often I am so consumed by my daily life and never-ending to-do list, that I often forget what the purpose of it all is for me.

Last week was so busy (no complaints here) that I was actually just home on my own for 1 day out of the week, and that turned out to be the day I cried myself to sleep (it was that bad). By the ned of the week, naturally, I was so exhausted (I am chronically exhausted these days, but this time felt more than usual), that my brain just started to dissociate on Saturday. Which usually projects into me doing absolutely nothing while the never-ending-to-do list keeps growing with tasks (I don’t cross things off; they are just piling up; thank goodness for my maniac spiral moments, shit actually gets done then).

And then, on one of teh late nights in bed, I was working on my daily challenge task, kindly provided to me by this amazing life coach on TikTok, I saw a quote:

You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.

And then, immediately, I heard a voice in my head of someone who, a few months back, told me that

the only limit we have in our heads is the one we set for ourselves.

And then it hit me. My current calendar structure no longer benefits me. I was so caught up with taxes and daily admin, content schedule, that I completely forgot to create. That time I get to just brain dump and find ideas for my future projects, etc. Important to remember in those moments: that is not shameful at all. If something doesn’t work out anymore for you, you can always start again. From the beginning, or from the point you are at. And no, you don’t need to wait for the New Year, new season, 1st of the month, or Monday. You can do it now. That second you made the decision, the change starts.

And I won’t sugar coat you; sometimes it won’t feel easy, won’t feel like everything comes together at all (trust me, it comes from a person who has business and does 99% of the work herself). But every time I get overwhelmed – I pause. I regroup, and remember the bigger picture. Why am I even doing this? Because those late admin nights, when nothing feels right, those are the nights that are building the path without you even seeing it (not seeing it just yet).

We did the same yesterday with my friend/client. She is on the journey; a lot of change is coming her way, so when she was trying pieces that were looking good on her in theory, this is where we had to dig a little deeper and ask a question. One important question.

Does this item represent the new version of who you want to be and shall be taken on the next level of adventures with you, or is it something that served its time and shall remain in the past, together with the old version of you who ones were wearing it (most likely a few years back; it’s never the recently worn item).

It is hard sometimes to let go of some things that bring us sentimental values and nostalgic feelings, but some things are meant to stay a memory only. You don’t need to drag old clothing with you (literally extra luggage). The more space you empty, the more new things you can fit into the new life you are building. Could be literally or metaphorically. Take it as it resonates with you. And if you want to start your styling journey, all you have to do is book our first call at your convenience. Let’s chat and figure this out together.

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Love you, bye xo

Your neurospicy fashion stylist,

Aya x